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Ep 78: Guilt – How to Handle it God’s Way & Thrive! Transcript

Hello ladies, are you there? Never know if I am live. Right now I am live. ladies. Welcome. I am so excited to have you here. I want to wish you a warm warm welcome to thriver Thursday live the place to be to learn powerful business strategy and grow in your walk with Christ. Welcome. I was on vacation last week I’m supposed to be in Florida, but the weather wasn’t agreeable. So I was in South Carolina visiting one of you my sweet friend Carolina, which was totally totally awesome. Um, so as you’re jumping on, please let me know you’re here. Tell me who was watching.

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But earlier today, I said it’s promo day. So make sure you check that out. I believe it’s the pinned post, although after this, this is going to be the pinned post, but just search promo day and you will find it. All right. So today Hey, Margie. Today we’re talking about guilt. And boy, is that a hot topic for us ladies, right? So let’s go to God in prayer and then jump on him. O Heavenly Father, you are so good. You are so good. God.

Thank you for all that you’re doing behind the scenes that we have no idea. Thank you, Lord, that You are here with us right now. In your word, it says we’re two or more are gathered in your name. There you are also. And so we know that you’re here, we thank you in advance for that. We praise you for that God, I asked you to speak through me, Lord, to each of these ladies, let them hear what they need to hear. Because there’s too much bad stuff out there. There are too many lies out there. And we need your truth. Lord, we need to hear from you. So Lord, you know, I have planned, you know, some Bible verses to go into and some other things to talk about Lord, but I’m giving the wheel to you, Lord, you do as you will. I am your vessel. Or God, we love you. And we trust you. And it’s in the mighty name of Jesus that we pray. Amen. Amen.

All right, so let’s start with reviewing some of the things we women feel guilty about.
Right? And I have 10 that I thought up. Okay, I know there are more. But they seem to be the top reasons that we’re struggling with guilt. So see which ones you’re struggling with. Okay. First one, self care.
Do you have guilt around self care?

You know, we know we need to take care of ourselves. It’s like that airplane in the mask thing. mask yourself. If those masks fall when you’re, you know in the airplane before you help somebody else because you can’t help others if you’re passed out. Right. So For you, my dear sister is there guilt around taking care of yourself taking that long bubble bath, you know, just as an example, I want, I want you to hear me on this, okay? It is not selfish, and certainly not sinful to take care of you.

Okay, so if you have any guilt around self care, please remember that truth, it is not sinful, it is not selfish to take care of you. If you are depleted, and have no energy to give, then you’re not going to serve anyone. self care, no kill, please. Second thing a lot of us feel guilty about is your career and your business. Right? We feel guilty about wanting it all. And we think to ourselves is a good Christian woman supposed to feel satisfied, just being a wife and a mom.

And let me say this, please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. I’m a stay at home mom. There is no harder work raising children, in my opinion. And there was no more important work, in my opinion, than being a great mom and taking care of the home. So I don’t mean to be smart to anybody, if that’s their decision, and they’re calling before God, to have that in their life. And that is their purpose. Awesome. But for those like me, who love the kids love the family, but felt like there was something more something was pulling me, then please don’t feel guilty about that.

It’s how God made you. And I’m going to go deeper, but I’m just giving you an overview. Right? So that was the second thing. Do you have guilt around your business? Or your career if you are still working the nine to five?
All right, third thing? Do you have guilt around not answering ASAP, to phone calls and texts, and PMS and DMS and it’s like,
Is that even possible anymore? With all that we have going on? And and and you know, you lady said have little ones and your homeschool and on top of everything else, God bless. I really don’t think I could do it. So do you have guilt around not
getting back to people quickly?

Got to set realistic expectations for ourselves. And Georgia says yeah, okay, I want you to be vulnerable. That’s excellent. Georgia. And you ladies, if something resonates with you, oh, yeah. Wow, that’s me. Okay. It’s okay. We can be vulnerable. We’re in a safe environment here. Okay, so do you have guilt around? This is kind of a funny one to make not keeping the house clean enough.
If I were to walk you through the house, I would be ashamed and embarrassed. And at first when I wrote that down, I’m like, this isn’t me. Like kind of it is. Because I don’t like walking into you know, my living room would it has piles of laundry in a couch? That’s not a that’s not a fun place to go to. It’s not relaxing, right? So do you have guilt around that?

Being pulled in 1000 different directions and saying, You know what, I have a choice. It’s eight o’clock at night. I can either sit down for the first time today. Or I can clean up around the house and I’m going to choose tonight to sit on the couch. And if that’s happened for a couple of days, I don’t want you to feel guilty about that. You’ve got to make decisions and feel good about them and move on. Okay. All right. That was number four. Number five. Do you feel guilty about your guilty pleasures?
Like I love Netflix. And Hulu. I love right now I’m watching wings, which is a sitcom from I think the 90s
I love it. It’s the way I just you know totally veg out and laugh.

Do you have guilt around this Guilty Pleasures? Maybe your guilty pleasures getting a Mani pedi right. So this one’s kind of similar to self care, but not quite. Do you have guilt around Guilty Pleasures? Number six, do you have guilt? Around not spending enough time with your family? I bet we all do to some extent.

Right. And part of this too is we may feel judged by others, whether it’s our mom, our sister, our neighbor, our friends at church, who are like, why are you doing this business thing? Go easy on yourself. Why are you doing this? God doesn’t want you to do this. Okay. Whew. When someone says that they know what God wants for you. Okay, that’s, you know, get that red flag up. I don’t know. I don’t know. Only you know, if you talk with God, right. Do you wonder if it’s okay with God? For you to be spending time away from your family? Okay, this is a tough one. And Julie says yes with all explanation points. Yeah. All right. Number seven. Do you have guilt around making money Like when you make a mistake, whether it’s in your business or whatever it might be, do you say to yourself, gosh, I should have known better? I should have done better. And beat yourself up for that. I hope not. Okay, we’re only human.

Alright, here’s guilt. Number eight. is do you have guilt around saying no? Like, are you a people pleaser? Many of us are. And even if we’re raised in a dysfunctional home, which I think every every home is, to some degree, or like the model home, right, where Mom and Dad, you know, got along and everybody you know, could have been on television, what was that
show? Leave it to Beaver?
Look, do you have guilt?

around saying no, you got to remember sister that saying no to one thing means that you have the opportunity to say yes to something better. Something may be more important. You’ve got to be okay. And more than Okay, confident and feeling really good about the decisions you make and being okay with saying no. Okay, number nine, do you have guilt and struggle around knowing your worth? Like, what is your value? Do you think that?

Oh, gosh. Now, if I think too highly of myself, you know, that’s not a good thing. Right? It’s like, Who am I? Who am I asking for a raise? Who am I raising my prices? For my services or products? It just feels wrong? There’s guilt or something there? Is that you? I think that might be some a big one for many of us, right? Knowing your work, there should be no guilt around that. Because look, we are Daughters of the king. We are hand woven together by the Creator of the universe. But for him there be nothing. Right. But for him, we wouldn’t exist, nobody would exist. Right? And for that Georgia says totally. Yeah.
And I’m missing some of these comments, but keep them coming sisters, this is really good.

All right. And finally, number 10. Do you have guilt around spending money? Whether it’s a haircut, or some new clothes, because like me, he gained some weight through these COVID minds, right? or spending money investing in you and your business? Do you have guilt around spending money? All right.

That’s good for you to kind of think about that. And as I say this, as I go through the rest of the teaching, I hope my expectation is my goal is that you will have a breakthrough. And that you will begin to see that God doesn’t want you to experience guilt. I don’t think he wants you to experience guilt at all. We will because we’re human. But he doesn’t want that for you. I’m convinced of it. And I want to convince you of that, too.

So here’s a fact, women grapple with guilt more than men. And you think about why is that?
Well, obviously the way God made us not to be guilty not to feel guilty. But as women we are naturally more empathetic. we’re wired for relationship. That’s why I love women, right? We’re nurturers, we want to make everybody feel better. It’s kind of that mothering instinct in us whether we have kids or not. And again, today, my goal is that you will leave here changed, I want to break through for you, sister, because guilt is holding you back. And guilt is keeping you stuck. Guilt is like this anchor around your neck, it’s weighing you down. And you may even at times feel like you are drowning in it.

And as I said, believe me God does not want you to feel guilt. Romans eight one. There is therefore now no condemnation to those in Christ Jesus, who walked not after the flesh, but after the spirit. Oh, red flag. Did you hear what I said at the end there?
As I wrote that, I didn’t like the end. who walked not after the flesh, but after the spirit. I thought, Ah,
wait a minute. Wait a minute. Do I walk after the spirit? Am I intentional about pursuing the spirit and not the flesh? Like, what about when I have that glass of wine? Or what about when I work so much yesterday that I didn’t get to the laundry? Like I almost didn’t include the last part of that verse.

But hang on a second. Hang on a sec. We’re not gonna we’re not gonna piecemeal God’s word. Okay, let’s remember who we are and who’s we are. If we were perfect, right? If we would never mess up, then we wouldn’t have needed Jesus. Can I get next Men on that. If we could do this on our own and get it right, Jesus didn’t need to die
on that cross. And the fact of the matter is, ladies, we can’t get it right on our own, we will fall. Occasionally we will sin, even when we love Jesus with all of our hurt, even when we accept Him as Savior, and we hate it when we sin, right? And that’s the spirit right there.

And God knew we would fail that we would fall and that is why Jesus went to the cross. And he sacrificed himself for us. And I want you to hear me on this. I really want you to hear me on this. That is why Jesus sacrificed himself
for you. For you, Julie, for Selby, Georgia, Missy, Carolina.
Destiny, Rebecca, Virginia Margie, to get what I’m saying.

Jesus thought of you when he was hanging there, and he could have taken himself off the cross and said, I’m done. I’m not doing this. But he loved you, you specifically enough to stay there. It’s powerful. Right? He persevered through that pain and anguish in this horrible place. He refused to get himself down from that horrible place for you to talk about pure love, and grace, undeserved favor. That’s what Jesus has for you.

So look, if you long to please God, and you want to walk alongside Jesus and do his work in your work, then Believe me,
he does not condemn you. And even when you make mistakes, he does not want you to condemn yourself. Remember what he said to the woman caught in adultery, and all her accusers had left. And Jesus asked her where are they? member? He was so awesome. I wish I knew what he was doing. He turned away from the crowd and he was doodling something in the sand or something like that, right? So when he turned back, they were all gone. He knew.

But he turned to her and said, Where are they has no one condemned you? And she said, no one, sir. And what did he say? Neither do I condemn you now go and sin no more. Now he know that she was going to sin. So don’t get all wrapped up in that the goal is not to sin. The goal is not to intentionally persist in a sin. But we will fall because we’re human. And that’s why Christ is had to come and die. Right? Okay, so does that help? guilt is not something God has for us that guilt. Think about this?

Well, I’m going to talk about that in a second. But guilt is an accusation. And who is the accuser? The enemy? guild is not something from God, that’s not for you. Alright, so let’s talk about definitions. Because, you know, I’m a wordsmith, as a lawyer, and I really, really, really want to you to hear me on what guilt is and how destructive it can be. Okay? The Wikipedia definition for the emotion of guilt? Is this an emotional experience that occurs when a person believes accurately or not, that they’ve compromised their own standards of conduct? Or they violated some universal moral standard, right, this is a worldly definition, and that they bear responsibility for that violation. And then Wikipedia went on to say that guilt is closely related to the concept of remorse and shame.

Okay, so it is an emotional experience, we feel something,
whether that feeling is accurate or not, I don’t know how a feeling can be not accurate. But in any event, why? Because we feel that we’ve compromised, something we’ve done wrong, right? Okay. So that’s the world the definition of this emotion of guilt. But there’s also a medical definition that came up in the side as I was on Google, and I thought, whoa, let’s read this. The guilt medical definition is feeling responsible or regretful for a perceived, whether it’s real or not, right, you perceive it a perceived offense, real or imagined, which can cause depression, anxiety, PTSD, postpartum depression, and other things, right.

This is a health condition, ladies, guilt can be a health condition. Our body is a wonderful thing that God made. And it all relates one or the other. When we struggle emotionally, it often manifests in the body physically. So clearly, this is something guilt is something we need to get a handle on. Yeah, it’s that important. And as entrepreneurs, as I’ve alluded to, guilt can be a stumbling block holding us back from moving forward. And it stands between where we are now and where God has planned for us to go and all the wonderful work that he has for us to do. And as I mentioned, you’ll an accusation of wrongdoing and it’s an accusation by the enemy. Don’t allow the enemy to win.

If you’ve sinned, you should feel remorseful and we confess our sin before God and we ask for his forgiveness and he promises to forgive us first john one nine, if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness Hallelujah, Hallelujah. Right? And he chooses to remember the sin no more, Hebrews 812, I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more, make this plain, okay? God does not want you to carry that guilt, or that chain.
Now, I want to add a couple of Bible verses that I need you to keep at the ready in order to equip you to get rid of guilt. Thank you for the love. Yes, yes, I want to know if this make these making sense.

Right? If you’re still grappling, and there’s something in your mind, please put it in the comments whether you’re here with me live or on the replay because I want to help you and I can’t help you if I don’t know what you’re still kind of thinking about or struggling with. And so some Bible verses john 317, for God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through him might be saved. Right, it is not God’s purpose to condemn you. It’s his desire to save us from death through Christ. Okay, so And similarly, Second Corinthians 521, for he made him who knew no sin to be sin for us that we might become the righteousness of God in Christ. Right. Through Christ’s death, you had been gifted with salvation and with forgiveness. And so
if God has forgiven you, why aren’t you forgiving yourself? Give yourself that grace that you so freely give others
keep it to yourself. That’s what God wants for you.

Right? It’s not condemnation. All right, Psalm 103 12. The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. Ah, that’s just, he’s amazing. He is truly awesome. The verse goes on, he does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities, as far as the east is from the west, so far as he removed our transgressions from us and cling to that sisters, as far as the east is from the west, our sins are way over there. And you’re over here. Okay? Yes, no guilt, you are forgiven, you are loved. Okay, now, here’s one that I love. And we’re going to spend some time on this one, Second Corinthians 517, thank you for the love ladies, I see it.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ is a new creation. old things have passed away. behold, all things have become new. Right? So in addition to clearing away all the sins through the blood of Christ, God gives us a brand new life, a new heart, that if we only listen to him, will keep us from going astray. You are a new creation in Christ sister and I really want you to embrace this in a new way. Because we if you were raised in the church, you’ve heard it a gajillion times. But that is so exciting. You are not the same. I know I’m not the same.

I was the biggest pro abortion advocate you could have seen. But Christ but Christ, I was an arrogant doesn’t such
you I was not likable. But Christ, hallelujah, hallelujah. So sister leave the past behind you. All that guilt, all the shame all the ugly in your life, believe me, I’ve got plenty of my own plenty of lamb. So I don’t mean in any way to be little the difficulty in leaving that past in the past. And maybe for some, you might need to work through some of it
in order to fully let it go.

But for me, I’m not one of those that says dredge it up, feel it again. Feel it again, to get over it for me. And my past, eating disorder, anxiety, agoraphobia, for me to relive that. And to go back to that,
that would just be too hard. But if that’s another way for you, great then pursue where God has you and where he knows you need to go to get over the past. But we’re new creations, right? Hallelujah. So for me to be able to leave that in the past the fact that I suffered abuse from my first husband and all the other stuff that happened, I need to keep my eyes focused on Christ, I need to keep looking forward, I need to keep looking at him, I need to talk to him, I need to trust him. I need to trust that the Lord Jesus Christ loves me.

He yanked me from death. So more than I could ever comprehend, and way more than I love myself, Jesus loves me. And so I choose, I decide to leave the pain, the regret, the guilt, and the shame nailed to the cross. By his stripes, I am healed Hallelujah, through Christ, my sins are erased. Because of Jesus, I can look with extreme optimism about the future
and not think about my past. I choose I decide my sisters to look forward to fully embrace who he made me to be to assume the very best for my family, for me for my marriage, for my business, and I want that for you. Why? How can I look with such optimism, even in the face of some struggles, whether they be in the past or even currently, what you might be going through, you might have a health issue, right? You might have relational issues, you might have all kinds of money issues, all kinds of stuff, right? But we can remain steadfast and strong in the knowledge that Jesus Christ is fighting my battles.

Because he’s promised that he has a plan for me, a plan to prosper me, Jeremiah 2911, says, and so I choose to think of that. I choose to keep my eyes focused on Jesus Christ, and the work he has for me and not all my past. Not all my mistakes, not on my regret. And I don’t want that for you. And thank you for the love. All right, Isaiah 4316 is similar about this new creation. But it’s important and and look, God talks about what’s important. And even as an exclamation point at the end of this one, so that’s important. God doesn’t put exclamation points everywhere like I do, right? So I say a 4316 says, forget the former things do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing. exclamation point.
Now it springs up, do you now perceive it?

Man, think on that. Think on that you could spend 1520 minutes, a half an hour an hour sitting in the quiet if we had that luxury of time, right? But even for 10 minutes, think on that and say, Lord God, tell me what I need to know on this. That is, I say 4316. It’s just amazing.

And finally, I want us to take a look at one of my other favorite verses Philippians four, eight. And if you follow me for a while or attended my recent thrive method workshop, you know, this is a go to verse for me. This is a verse that God gave us Philippians four, eight, it is an all inclusive list of things that God wants us to think about. And guess what? Ladies? gifts, not on the list. lebbeus for eight. We are whatever is true. I don’t do it the right order. This is how I memorized it. Whatever is true, whatever is right, whatever is noble, whatever is pure, whatever is admirable, whatever is lovely. If anything is excellent or praiseworthy think on these things. That’s it. That’s it. That’s not on the list, sister.

So only the enemy wants you to know. spend time thinking about that. I implore you, Sister because I love you to go to God right now accept his wonderful gift of forgiveness through Jesus Christ
for all your sins. And for the guilt, leave all that junk, including that guilt at the foot of the cross. Christ has overcome hallelujah and in and through him. So can you? And so I want to end with a brief discussion on proverbs 31. For anyone here who grapples with that guilt about Oh, is it okay for me to make money? Is there okay for me to be ambitious? Is it okay for me to have a business? This is for you. Okay, first, this idea of selfish ambition, because I know I was raised in the church. Now you shouldn’t have selfish ambition. Let’s look at the verse. Okay. It’s in Philippians to do nothing out of self. I’m sorry. Do nothing out of selfish ambition. Or vain conceit. But in humility, consider others better than yourselves.

Do nothing out of selfish ambition. Okay. As you do your work, sister, you are serving others, are you not? You’re not chipping people trying to rob them steal from them, right Actually not you are loving them, you’re pouring into them, I know it, I work with you, I know your hearts. And that is not selfish ambition that is service that is servant leadership, exactly what we, as children of God are called by him to do. Right? That’s selfish ambition.

You’re just exchanging value for value. And a lot of you aren’t getting your fair value back because you’re grappling with guilt and self worth, which by the way, I am worthless as a self, but in him, when I become who he made me to be, that is where I buy worth comes from. Okay, so it’s worth value as in who God made me meet made me to be and what gifts and talents did he give me? And am I sharing that with the world? Because if God gave you a gift and a talent, it does no good when you keep it to yourself. Remember the story of the towns in the Bible? Right? God didn’t think too highly of the person that hid his in in the dirt, keep it safe.

Okay. I’ve been blessed played safe. We are called to step out to stand out to live large to live boldly, courageously courageous doesn’t mean you have you don’t have fear. It means that I’m going to take that step. Even if I’m afraid because the Lord Gods by my side, probably Vidya right. So proverbs 31. Let’s look at a couple of verses real quick. Okay, verse 10. She this woman up noble character is worth far more than rubies. She’s not just worth a couple of rubies. She’s worth far more than rubies, plural. Do you hear me?

If you ever question your worth, and my mom always did. You just got to look at Proverbs 3110. Your worth is worth far more than rupees. Okay, verse 15. What else does this woman do? She provides food for her family. It doesn’t say she makes food or prepares food. And words matter. Ladies. The verse says she provides food. So she’s like earning the bacon and bringing it home. You got me. She’s bringing in revenue she is providing for her family. And she’s being counted as a woman of noble character who is worth far more than rubies? Are you really doubting whether God wants you to have a business
or make money.

We’re looking at an example here, which is exalted this woman. Um, you know, this is important enough for God to have made up this this woman. And I kind of think it’s a fiction. I’ll talk about that in a second. I kind of think it’s made up. I don’t know that this was, you know, talking about a specific woman who existed at the time. But God wanted us in this 21st century to be able to refer back to this woman. So please let all this sink in. Go to God, Lord, is this true is what she’s telling me true. Go to him. Okay, I want you to be discerning. Later in that same verse, verse 15, she portions for her servant girls.
Oh my goodness.

She has employees and guess why don’t you treat them? Well, she serves them. She gives them their due. Right? How about verse 16? This woman of noble character, she considers a field and she buys it. Wow. She’s a serial entrepreneur. She is a landowner. She read the Proverbs 31. in its entirety, you’ll see
she’s doing a lot of stuff.

So verse 16, she considers a field and buys it. And that verse goes on to say out of her earnings, she plants a vineyard. This woman is not already an entrepreneur. She’s a serial entrepreneur. Verse 17. She sets about her work vigorously. So she’s not lazy, right? She’s excited. She’s always doing something for her family for her business for others, right? Verse 18, she sees that her trading is profitable. The Bible says profitable.

If that was a sin, it would say something in a negative vibe. Right? This says she sees that her trading is profitable. And this is a woman of noble character. This is a woman who has to be praised at the city gates for her work.
And she is profitable. Do you hear what I’m saying? Thank you, Rebecca saw that love there. Verse 25. This same woman is clothed in strength and dignity and she can laugh at the days to come. The election COVID some other crazy shore to come. Why? Because she knows who she is in the Lord.

Okay, now I believe that this wife of noble character is a fiction. I believe that she is kind of a You know, everything in the Bible is spirit is by the Holy Spirit. And I believe that God was trying to say, this is what the potential is for you, ladies, you don’t have to do it all. And frankly, I don’t think we could certainly not without the Holy Spirit’s anointing, and us relying on him, to strengthen us and to know what back to do in the first place. Right.

So to me, this is just a made up woman. But there’s value there, right. And I think the value is, this is what I have for you,
if you if you want it. And if I wired you this way, there are women that are stay at home moms forever and ever, and I never would be smart to them, if that’s their calling, by God, and that’s their calling. But for those of us that God gifted in unique ways, and he has put this passion of a business in our hearts, this proverbs 31 woman that is for us, right? So for us, we must be intentional about what we focus on Jesus Christ.

And what we think about Philippians, four, eight, if it’s not on the list, please don’t think about it. And we have to be intentional when it comes to our business, intentional and strategic, about what we do, the actions that we take. So sr, are you convinced? Have you had a breakthrough? during our time together? I would love to know no guilt sister, it’s no good for you physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and it is not what God wants for you. So really, how do you feel right now, Sister, I want to know,
did you decide?

Did you know that you could decide you have a choice as to not only the actions that you take, but you have a choice as to the thoughts that you have. I mean, they may come in, but you can choose to say no, and let it go. Or you choose to hunter blue blade on that I was met forget that word. But you can choose whether or not you’re going to fixate on that thought. Or if you’re going to hold a captive before Christ and get rid of a thought that he doesn’t want you to have. Do you know that you can choose to feel what you feel now listen, pangs of guilt will come up and other feelings, okay? that can never be eliminated completely. But when it does come up, when this feeling of guilt comes up, for example, you have a choice.

I’m going to go there and wallow in it and feel bad and go down that rabbit hole. It’s a rabbit hole to know we’re good, right? It’s exactly where the enemy wants you to go. And he doesn’t want you to use your gifts. Right? So you can choose to go that way or, or you can choose to focus on Christ. Keep your eyes on him, just as Peter did. And that allowed him to walk on the water until until he looked away. What happened then he sunk like a rock. You put a drowned but for Christ and His grace. So sister choose today, right now, say no to go. And I want you to type that in.
I want you to type that in. No.

I’m saying I am committed to no to go per se however you want to see how shall we say that? I will say no to guilt. I will say no to guilt. Look, we’re all going to strive to do our best. And we know that our best really comes not by our own strength or my by the power in you. That is Christ right through the Holy Spirit. So when you feel guilt, pray, Lord, God help me please. Your Word says this isn’t for me. You have my best in mind. And I know this isn’t it helped me Lord, to know your truth. Help me Lord, to live
out your plan for me for my life for my business.

Okay. So again, I want to know your biggest takeaway, please take a moment and do that right now. Thank you for level this coming in. I’m going to go to the comments in just a minute. And look, if you are not yet convinced after this 39 minutes together, that guilt is not something that a good Christian needs to feel I really want to hear from you. Whether you’re here with me live or on the replay, let me know because I clearly am very passionate about this. I’ve done my study, I want to help you. And I can’t do that if I don’t know that you’re struggling or what specifically you’re struggling with. So if you have questions, put those in the chat as well. I have about five minutes and I would love to work through this with you. And I know this isn’t easy stuff.
But it’s pivotal. It’s critical.

As you grow as an entrepreneur. Remember, you are a thriving CEO, right. That’s got to be your mindset, even if you’re just starting out. B do have number B do have from the workshop. Right? And if you have no idea what I’m saying what is B do have Okay, well got great news for your sister the week of October 19. I am putting on the thrive method workshop once again. And if you attended before, you’ll want to participate again because repetition is a good way to solidify right thinking and right strategy. So you’ve got to think even today as the thriving CEO you aspire to be. Okay.

All right, let me go to the comments. Go here. Goodbye, old me. You are done sexually awesome. new creation says missy. This is the encouragement and motivation I needed this morning. Hallelujah. This is a word right from the Lord. Kristin, thank you so much for being vulnerable on that. Oh, you’re so welcome. Bye bye old self says Georgia. Awesome. Awesome.

Okay, Julie, when you shared about proverbs 31. Before it was the first time I realized I didn’t have to feel guilty about feeling the desire to build a business I realized I am walking in the Lord’s will and, and Missy says stay at home moms are awesome. And I’ll say I’m telling you more important work of all the accomplishments that I’ve ever done in my life. There are three that I hold dear My Michael, my Ryan and my Benjamin. I like God’s grace have raised three boys that love the Lord, that have a heart for people. And they’re just wonderful to be around. I want to be like them someday. So that’s the most important work Eddie ever. Okay, I hope you don’t mind I get emotional. I’m just me. I know mommy say no to guilt. Pamela I choose to feel great about having a business no more guilt. Amen. Sister, George. I say no to guilt. I have no condemnation in my Jesus. That’s right. Virginia. I will say no to guilt. Julie, get behind me Satan. You are something black to me. Margie, pew good stuff. Thank you, Judy. I’m saying no to guilt. That’s right, Rebecca, all this guilt and fear are major struggles. And Rebecca, you are doing amazing things in your business. So I bet you your competitors have no idea you’re afraid. But this is the point, ladies, wherever you are in your business. Okay, whether you are just starting out, like making pretty much nothing right now.

Or whether you’re making multiple, six figures and approaching seven figures. at every level, you will have fear. at every level, you will have doubt and that enemy. The more you do, he’s the more he’s going to be whispered in your ear. That’s why you’ve got to be intentional about what you think about what you focus on. And the actions that you take. You’ve got to lean on Christ go all in on who you are in Him and ask Him Lord, who did you make me to be? What do you want me to do? He will give you that download? He absolutely will. Okay, Chris LD my takeaway is I can choose. God gave me free will. That’s right, Rebecca, I’m saying no to guilt and fear. I’m missing out. I have two people I will tell who need to do the thrive method workshop. Yes, please do. I’m going to start marketing that next week. Take away for Georgia worth more than rubies. Yes. worth more than many rubies right. Margie Yahoo. That was the best workshop if you haven’t come You must for the thrive workshop. Yes. So thank you for that. Marty. Julie. I love your realness. Your motions are beautiful. Thank you sisters.

So I don’t see any questions. So I think for that I will say goodbye for now. But I love you girls so much. I love you ladies so much. And I pray for you every day. Please know that you have amazingness you have amazingness that God
made you for extraordinary Miss right. She is extraordinary that she is you. Hey Jackie, you have to watch the replay, but thankful that you’re here. So ladies, I hope that this has been a breakthrough. That won’t end like right now. My prayer is that you will go to God about guilt even more.

And that this new way of approaching that emotion when it comes up, or the shame or anything else from your past. I pray that I’ve given you some Nuggets to cling to, and of course what what is it based on? It’s based on the word of the Lord. I pray that you will claim that to His Word and His truth. And when you’re feeling those pangs of guilt, go to him. Let him tell you the truth Sr. He’s got big, extraordinary things just for you.

Wow, I love you have a beautiful rest of your day. And we’ll talk soon. Take good care. God bless.

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